Excuses Are Like Puppies

15 Oct, 2019

“I can’t afford that …”
“I was thinking of going to Thailand this winter, so …”
“I promise I’ll get clear on my commitment after …”
“We’re just slammed at home right now …”
“Sorry I’m late …”
Excuses are like puppies. Not very powerful yet totally attention get…Read More

Eulogy for Edward Scott Van Winkle, 4/15/1943-8/22/2019

02 Oct, 2019

I’m here to say a few words about my Dad. Before I do, I want to say a little bit about the way he died.
In the weeks before my Dad ended his life, I had been trying to sit down and write him a letter to say goodbye. I knew he was getting ready to die, and I wanted to let him know that I appreci…Read More

Men’s Work Doesn’t Work

13 Aug, 2019

When a man first encounters “men’s” work – does an MKP retreat, reads a David Deida book – there’s a simultaneous tendency to bring more intensity to relating with women. As if the book and the talk and the seminar unleash a latent capacity in him and he feels more powerful, more potent, mor…Read More

Talk + Workshops in Carbondale

21 Mar, 2019

I gave a talk the other night in the Kiva at True Nature Healing Arts in Carbondale, Colorado. It’s sweet for me to feel the relationship with that space and that valley grow. I feel a lovely kind of crush sparking inside me for new people and places, including the Roaring Fork. Even as I can feel…Read More

Following the Soul

01 Jul, 2018

Making sense of it all not analytically, but with a downward opening. Feeling in the dark, the next open room of context that makes sense of all the previous. Mostly just feeling right and most most of all feeling particular and specific. Deeply me, not from a long time ago, but honoring all that…Read More

What is Soul?

28 Apr, 2018

From the Soul-Tree Podcast with Ryan Holsapple

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Last advice I read

04 Apr, 2018

“I remind myself, in order to understand what is happening now, I must be prepared to forget what I have understood before.”
Dhyana KJ…Read More

My Last Facebook Post

23 Mar, 2018

This boy has a beautiful heart. His heart knows how to love.

You could even say his heart /knew/ how to love, even before he was born.

In the other world (the one we live in before we are born into this one), this boy spent all of his time loving things. Rocks, bugs, trees, people. He brea…Read More


25 Feb, 2018

Grief is the space between what you have and what you wish you had

21 Feb, 2018

Grief is the space between what you have and what you wish you had. It is a rite of life.

Gratitude is the space we make in ourselves in order to receive blessings. Write down what you’re grateful for.

Grace is blessing, and the source of blessing. You have no right to it, and yet you receiv…Read More